Saturday, July 7, 2007

Dedicated to one of my best friend -F%$@#$356 :) Here are some tips for you dude... pick it p before its too late:)

Traits to lookout for

1. She's independent

No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she's had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. Viz. Daily lunch, evening she calls up and asks Jaanu ... kahaa ho.. and you have to give same monotone answers daily. Day in and day out youwill not have anything to discuss... On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you - while still missing you. This helps and in todays fast world, where interests vary or fade away fast, this a good remedy in itseld. of course - then she must be a great girlfriend.


2. She's intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but same routine gal gets real old, real fast. But if with brains, instead of you being the one in total control, you'll find yourself trying to figure out what she's really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers - or if she's actually thinking at all. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won't let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to talk about between all daily chores.

3. She's sexual
While we're on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you're into new wwild methods and positions and she's more of a idle boat waiting to be rowed (bad pun) type, that's a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page - or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time(KANK). Of course, this doesn't imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction and chemistry toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the table - whatever the case may be.

4. She's beautiful
I know, this one is kind of debatable, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together - matching lingerie is a definite plus. You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn't mean that she has to be a Ash clone. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you're allowed.

5. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form. A great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

6. She lets you be a man
Do not - I repeat - do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat Cornflakes and milk and badams(almonds) for breakfast and insists that you give up nightouts and games. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches. She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her.

7. She's nagless


There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don't want a girlfriend who will give you hell for forgetting a date or what she gifted you on first valentine (I did). But that does not mean you are not answerable for staying whole night out without her consent (confused)

8. She gets along with friends and family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds.

9. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, then she is the one. A woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that one has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care about what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.


10. She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face... any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man o keep improving (i am doing). She does not have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love

11. Telepathy
It happens.. trust me. When you start realizing what she is thinking and strike the same frequency then mate ... she is the Queen of your hearts. Many a time and in critical occasions the eyes and expressions says it all and this saves a lot of talking and makes a great bonding .
It will help in future when you are old and labored whole your life to keep your wife happy, expressions will be only saving grace!

To all the tobe Lovers out there:)

2 comments:

Confused I Am said...

Very well written....

I need to follow your blog now.. after such comments..

So did you find the gf you are looking for?

NeoBhavin said...

not yet.. searching for one!